We all know when it comes to certain things whether it be something job related like an interview, or school related like a presentation or performance, or even self-related like our weight or personality, we want the best for ourselves. We want to be happy or we want things to go smoothly as possible. It’s okay to strive for the best. And when striving for the best, we will certainly encounter criticism from others, whether it be constructive or destructive.
But, what we sometimes fail to realize is that even when we do strive for the best in whatever we may do, there is one person who can become the biggest critic of all times. “Who?” you asked.
Yes, you. Sometimes, you can be your worst critic. From the way you dress, to that slight accent you have in your voice, to the way you present yourself on your first date, we have a habit of pointing out every single flaw in ourselves and will literally beat ourselves up over it. Now don’t get me wrong, self-criticism is not an all around bad thing. It can help us grow in areas that need improvement. But when you reach a point where every flaw makes you feel like you’re not good enough, you’ve reached a problem.
I certainly know what it’s like to be your worst critic. I criticize myself ALL THE TIME. When it comes to too much self-criticism, I find it important to remember and apply the three C’s of life. Choice. Chances. Changes.
Choice: Trust the choices you make. Whether it was that outfit you chose to wear to an interview or the way you remixed your favorite song, trust in yourself and believe that what you choose to do is the best decision. If things don’t go the way you expected, it’s okay. Life is full of lessons. And those lessons teach us to better our decision-making process.
Chance: Take chances. When you criticize yourself too much, you become fearful and you tend to stick with what you know. Trying new things can open up so many doors. Before becoming an aspiring model, I was always to afraid to take chances like auditions and casting calls in fear of rejection. I always crowded my mind with “what if’s”. I only learned that “what if’s” lead to “I regret”. Take that chance.
Change: Accept what you can’t. Change what you can. We can often overcriticize ourselves about things we have no control over. Our flaws makes us unique in our own way. And before anyone else can accept them, you have to accept and love those flaws yourself first. The things you can change like your lifestyle habits, improving friendships/relationships, should be a greater priority.
So, the main message to take from this blog is to stop being your worst critic. It’s okay to self-construct but don’t self-destruct. You are you for a reason. And whoever can’t accept it should just keep it stepping. Until next time loves!